Today, we will be focussing on how intensely the things we think and say to ourselves matter. Mindset coach, Anne McKeown, founder of 2MPower will then give us a few examples of empowering language phrases we can use instead to put a positive spin on a negative thought!
The words we use and how we talk to ourselves really matter. Unconsciously we have this gremlin in our head constantly talking to us. Unfortunately, we are wired to generally think negatively to keep us safe. But, if we are not aware of how we talk to ourselves, it can send us on a pretty dangerous spiral. If someone were to say something negative to you, our instant reaction would often be ‘how dare you speak to me like that?’, but when we say it to ourselves, we often accept it. Knowing that so much of what you say is untrue, and your loved ones wouldn’t think the same, is so important. We must be aware of what we say!
How can we stop being so unkind to ourselves?
Ensure you are aware that you are doing it is the first step! But, one of the best things to do is find empowering language swaps to introduce into your vocabulary that you say to yourself!
Here are some of Anne’s favourite examples:
- “I can’t do this” “I can’t do this, yet!” – there is always room for growth and learning
- “I should/I have to/I need to” “I want to/I choose to/I’m deciding to”
- “I’m tired” “I’m going to create some energy for myself”
- “I’m stupid” “I’m learning” – it is a journey
- “I’m frustrated” “How can I?” – reframe and see how you can help yourself
- “You should” “Have you considered?”
- “This is a problem” “This is a challenge/opportunity”
- “This is difficult” “How can I simplify this?”
Another tip Anne shared is to try not to pair a positive word if you are trying to enforce something negative. For example, with children if we say, “don’t run”, they will often do the opposite and keep running. This is because humans hear the positive word first, being ‘run’. So maybe instead say in this scenario, just simply say “STOP” or “WALK” so there is one positive, direct command to listen and react to.
To end, Anne shared one last point, “Say what you mean, mean what you say, without being mean.”
We had the pleasure of sitting down with the founder of 2MPower, Anne McKeown about all thing’s mindset, goal setting and positive thinking recently.
After working as a Sales Coach at BP Oil, Anne discovered that ultimately it was never about the product that made sales, but about the salesperson’s mindset. Her employees were successful when their beliefs and mindset were aligned and were overall, positive. This prompted Anne to find out more.
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